Being too hard on yourself negatively impacts your work output and increases self-criticism and procrastination.


sensitive striver strives to achieve excellence at all times—an impossible task. They judge themselves harshly, over-analyse, and worry about perceived mistakes.

It is an ineffective and hard habit to break. 

Melody Wilding writes that you need to create a physiological distance from self-criticism by giving it a name from a book or movie. This process, called cognitive diffusion, decreases stress, reduces discomfort and increases believability. 

Don't concentrate on a specific event; consider the entire performance. 

Consider the 'What if?' in a positive context. 'What if this works?' rather than 'What if this fails?'

A sensitive striver needs to revise what they see as a 'win'. 

For example:

  • Overcoming a fear
  • Standing up for what you believe is right
  • Changing your mindset
  • Taking a small step towards a goal

Reflect on the day's highlights and worth noting that maintaining your integrity and your values is one definition of success.